Being a feminine man doesn't make a man weak. Being gay doesn't make a man weak. And on the flip side, having a big beard & a deep voice and being super manly doesn't make a man strong.
I've been thinking a lot lately about the idea that men have become soft and weak. I believe they have, and I feel like men have lost their edge. I feel like society has twisted the ability for young men to (1) feel good about themselves and (2) be confident, competent, and kick ass in life. Unfortunately, though we can't change society, we can change ourselves.
I want to explain why men have become weak and how men can change if they decide that they're sick and tired of being the victim with the victim mentality and mindset. This victim mentality and mindset are among the most poisonous and toxic things men face. Unfortunately, society is encouraging it, and men are feeding into it. These men choose to be victims and powerless, staying down and
oppressed. They decide not to take ownership and action.
Men need to be strong, and the only way they're going to do that is to realize that they can change. Individually, men need to recognize that they can take action to change themselves and their situation. Nobody's going to do it for anyone else. Besides, it's nobody's responsibility.
Men also seem to have lost their ability to hear the truth. Men seem to be worried about hurting other people's feelings and offending others. If someone gets offended, they need to contemplate why they were offended. In reality, men need to be willing to hear the cold heart truth rather than having somebody blow smoke up their ass. They need to be encouraged to stop believing in their own hype and stop living with rose-colored
glasses.
The truth is that people who will be successful and mentally strong take off those rose-colored glasses and hear the feedback and criticism. And when they don't win, they don't get rewarded with a medal or trophy.
Recent men's weakness seems to also stem from being scared to fail. Men these days do not appear as willing to take chances and risks. Men have become so comfortable being comfortable that going outside their box or trying something different scares them. This fear can progress to the point of paralysis.
Remember, failure is part-and-parcel of the equation. Every single strong and successful man has done it. Some have even failed multiple times, but failure leads to growth and strength. Thoughts of the worst-case scenario prevent many from moving forward. However, once failure happens, men realize how strong and resilient they are after picking themselves back up, allowing them to move forward and faster next time.
We are not our thoughts; we are our actions. Strong men act and take action, whereas weak men just talk. I see it online all the time where dudes are really good at talking about all the things they are going to do and how they will be killing it. Keep in mind what you say doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what you think. What matters is what you DO. Strong men get out of their heads and into their life. Strong men also deal with negative self-talk,
which can ultimately prevent the ability to move forward.
Men have also become incredibly weak because they lack discipline and routine. Giving in to impulses and urges, unfortunately, makes success extremely challenging. Genuinely successful, strong men can control themselves and are disciplined even though they might want to do something else. They know that they can't and shouldn't, so they don't. Mentally strong men understand
the importance of having a routine, developing discipline, and being consistent, including work, working out, and diet.
Speaking of diet, men who eat crappy diets, whether overeating or eating junk, will never be as strong as their potential. The truth is the quality of the foods and the calories consumed directly impact the brain and body. If you expect to be physically strong, you need to eat better. You also need to be more active, which is also why I feel like men have become incredibly weak. Society is now sitting in front of computers and sitting scrolling their phones.
Society has become lazy, and subsequently, men have gotten fat. I blame our food, technology, and inability to be honest with ourselves. Men need to do what's not fun, and men need to be honest with themselves. Men need to stop lying and blowing smoke up their own asses. The responsibility to motivate and take care of yourself doesn't come from anyone other than
yourself.
Men need to stop lying to themselves by saying the words 'someday' and 'maybe' because feeding junk to your brain has the same impact as feeding junk to your body. All of the social media and pornography that men are feeding their brains is junk and another reason why men have become so incredibly weak. A little bit of porn is not the reason (porn has always been around in some form), but the
access and the ability to watch it all the time has changed, which is a significant reason.
I am truly worried about the young guys who are
unsure who to be or what to be,
worried about doing or saying something 'wrong' because they are scared to be 'canceled,'
and not sure about life because they don't have a positive male role model.
Do not let society decide where you're going in life and who you will be. It's your job and responsibility if you want to be successful, tough, and accomplished. You have to be mentally strong. Being feminine doesn't make you weak, just as being a dude with a big beard and big biceps doesn't make you strong. Being strong is a mix of mental fortitude, toughness, self-esteem, and
confidence combined with a healthy dose of grit!
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