So, how should we position ourselves online? We should be our authentic, true selves – although we should consider what we post. Your online image speaks volumes about who you are, so you must ensure it’s saying what you want it
to.
We talk a lot about what your image projects and represents. Image is not just when you meet somebody – it’s part of the equation, sure – your image and presence are the collective whole of how people perceive you. And it would be an absolute shame for you to have a momentary lapse in judgment and for that momentary lapse to come back years later and bite you in the ass. Recently,
we have seen how that scenario has played out to the detriment of politicians, YouTubers, celebrities, and the like. |
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You need to think about EVERYTHING that you comment on, EVERYTHING that you post, EVERYTHING you put out there. |
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We have been given so much through technological advances, but we've also lost a few things in the process: anonymity and privacy. These two things are starting to slip through our fingers, and the more social you are, the more potential is available for you to plant a social media landmine. |
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Making sure that your social media is saying what you want it to is CRITICAL to your
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Like it or not, it’s increasingly difficult to fly underneath the digital radar. And what you’re presenting to the world is public access – public knowledge via Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, Instagram – my god, the list goes on and on. The pictures you post, the things you like, the topics you discuss – they’re all
on display. Even if your settings are on lock-down, you really don’t want to take the chance. It’s not worth it. The benefit you get from posting some of those pictures or saying certain things are not worth it in the long run. |
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Don’t make these mistakes -- it's simply not worth
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- Impulsive posting – you must think through before posting because repercussions can wreak havoc on your life. Pause before posting.
- Talking about taboo topics such as religion and politics – you can’t change anyone’s mind. You only can change people’s views of you, so don’t talk about your personal opinions unless you understand that you will alienate people.
- TMI – Some people post too much personal information about themselves, which harm can result if your privacy settings aren’t in check. Some things should be kept private.
- Accepting everyone’s friend request – people lie and have malicious intentions, so be careful.
- Being offensive and saying inappropriate things – avoid posting nasty things. Try the test: would you show your 87-year-old grandmother?
- Confusing personal and professional profiles – be sure to separate
the two.
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But certain things you have control over, and certain things you can be true to yourself. More than even being true to yourself, you need to ensure that you’re okay with what you put out there. |
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Your image needs to be consistent, both in-person and online as well. If you're doing and saying and acting in
certain ways that are not necessarily in line with how you want to be perceived by the outside world, then you may want to take a hard look and change. If that means taking down some old pictures, removing some tags, or deleting some comments that you've made, I would say NOW is the perfect opportunity to do so.
And keep in mind that you may think you are simply scrolling through social media to
unwind, but research has found that the images you see and the people you interact with can impact your self-perception. Take time to evaluate how you use social media to make social media a healthier environment by unfollowing certain accounts, finding a healthy community, or taking breaks from scrolling daily. |
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Alpha M. POST of the WEEK |
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Disclaimer: I'm also working on my grooming, so please don't mention that in this post. This post is about how I got back on top
of my fitness and how I am still improving.
Since forever, I've been a big guy. My dad used to stuff me with food because he wasn't sure the woman who took charge of the care of the local kids was feeding us. That's where I believe the core of my overeating lies.
I first became conscious of trying to lose weight when I was 15 years old. I weighed 240 pounds, dropping to 230, then 228, and then 224 in weeks. I
immediately relaxed, assuming I'd be 220 the following week. BIG mistake. I was 228 the next week. At one point, I believe I'd lost 22 pounds in one week, although I believe the scales were broken because the next week, I had put 16 of them back on.
At 17 years old, I was 252 pounds; at 18, I was 266; at 19, I was 280. That's where I stayed for a long time. Occasionally I would drop below, but I always ballooned back up. And I thought if I ate smaller
meals, my then frequent midnight snacking would end at 9 am.
Just as I had my shit together to get more done, the first lock-down happened, and I lost motivation to do anything. Three to four 4 months passed, and I thought, "Well, let's see the damage." I swear I had a heart attack seeing 320 pounds, but looking back, IT SHOWED. 320 pounds and a 50-inch waistline -- the same size as my chest.
I knew I
couldn't do this alone anymore. I was super hesitant to ask for help, and the one who got me was THE most convincing. I had a shaky start adjusting to smaller meals and doing the workouts. I used to view the workouts as a chore because, being autistic, it was a bitch to break the routine. But I'm consistently improving.
Well, 19 months, 87 pounds, 12 waistline inches, and 1 neck inch so far, I think my trainer knows what he's talking about, right? That
shirt used the bunch up on me standing, and it now fits when I'm sitting. I'm talking to women more comfortably -- consistent as my fitness. I still have 20-40 pounds and another 2-4 inches to go, but trust me, if I can do it, YOU CAN DO IT. |
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