We are who we are – we all have value. Treat yourself with kindness and stop concerning yourself
with others' accomplishments. Sure, comparison can be beneficial in some situations, such as helping us improve and grow, but often the comparisons tear us down by creating fake insecurities from these perceptions.
We will always have people around us who have achieved more, and rather than perceiving them as unfavorable, look at them as a trainer or instructor. As I have always said,
surround yourself with people better and more intelligent than yourself. They can lift you up and help you learn by example. Surround yourself with positive people that make you feel good about yourself. Positivity is contagious… so is negativity. Which do you want?
Men can be insecure about their popularity with the opposite (or preferred) gender. Some men boast about how much sex they have with hot women, and then other men see this as
a standard to achieve; thus, feeling insecure because they aren't matching up with the amount of sex and the woman's hotness. You know what? Have a 'so what' attitude. You don't know how sex is with these so-called hot women. The sex could actually be awful and not worth the effort and drama.
When men are around men who are in better shape or more attractive, insecurities may pop up. This,
gentlemen, is a simple fix. Go for a walk or run daily. Do push-ups, crunches, curls, and other exercises at home. Simply work on one cardio activity + two weight-bearing exercises daily. You will not only look better but also feel better and exude more confidence. What other men look like around you won't be the predominant focus anymore. So, if you're insecure about something you can change, change it. I take care of my body physically, which makes me
feel incredible – and it will make you feel incredible too.
Men have insecurities about their careers, and they feel stuck. Comparing themselves to others only makes matters worse. Some men may ultimately label themselves as a loser, unable to make a change in their careers. Don't let a temporary situation create something more permanent. Get out of that mindset by strategically making moves to
change careers, go after your dreams, and find an intrinsically and possibly even an extrinsically rewarding job. |