Gentlemen, we NEED to start treating each other better.
Published: Sat, 06/27/20
We NEED to start treating each other
better!
I have a question for you. Do you consider yourself to be charming? The reason I ask is because I've been doing a bit of thinking and hypothesizing about how we as men can get more out of life both professionally and socially. Well here's the conclusion that I came to: if you're charming, you're going to be able to develop and cultivate more opportunities and relationships. Now bare with me while I get
to the crux of this newsletter.
Being charming is the act of having an attractive personality, and learning to be charming can take the most socially awkward dude to a whole new level. Think of it like this: If you learn to be charming, you can actually make people like you. They don't even have a choice. They like you because you're charming which means you have superior social skills. But it's MUCH MORE than just this.
Being charming starts when you first meet somebody. So the great news is that with each new person that you meet, you're actually starting fresh. They have no history with you, so it's a clean slate. They have no idea about any of the crappy things you have done in the past or the fact that you
can be a complete asshat when you drink too much. It's a clean slate.
So when you meet these new people, be genuinely interested. Start looking at people as fascinating stories because everyone has one. It's your job to get their story uncovered -- the substance beneath the surface. And if you start thinking about people in this way and actually interact with them accordingly, you're going to be amazed at how your people skills will improve
instantaneously. Now, you're certainly not going to like everybody, but as my grandfather said, you CAN get along with anybody you WANT to get along with.
When you meet somebody new, go into the interaction with the attitude that you're already friends. Have you ever heard the saying, “He's never met a stranger”? This mindset is what I'm talking about. Go into every interaction as if you already know the person. Talk to them in that manner, and make sure you do it with a smile.
By smiling, you are instantly engaging an individual and bringing them into your world in a friendly and warm way. A smile is quick, easy, and free. And the best of all, smiles make people feel good.
Compliments also make people feel good, so give compliments freely. When somebody gives you a compliment, you immediately like them better. The same is true for the reverse. Practice giving compliments, but also practice receiving compliments. Don't just brush them off; instead, respond with a ‘thank you’. When you give a compliment, your value instantly
raises.
Poking fun at others, on the other hand, will not raise your value. It’s never cool. However, the ability to laugh and poke fun at yourself is a great way to show that you're comfortable in your own skin, you have a good sense of humor, and you are well-grounded. Just don't go overboard or else you'll look like you're insecure or fishing for
compliments.
When interacting with others, make sure that you learn to listen. When you learn to listen, you will be amazed at what you actually hear. Yes, there’s a significant difference between listening to someone and actually hearing him. Sometimes listening actually means paying attention to things that aren't being said, which includes body language.
Listening is a kind act. Which brings me to the point: treat all people with kindness and respect. I know this sounds like a no-brainer, but if you don't hear or listen to anything else that I say, I hope you listen to this and take it to heart. BE KIND AND RESPECTFUL. If you treat people better, the depth and quality of your relationships will also be better. Tragically, as society gets
busier and people get more wrapped-up in our own worlds, the core principles of being good people fall by the wayside.
I see such horrible stories about different travesties all over the world, and it seems like people are being desensitized to it. What brings me to tears every single time is when I see selfless acts of genuine kindness. Gentlemen, we need to start treating each other better. I am telling you it is so vital to our successes individuals and the ability for us to be, yes charming, but treat
people with respect and kindness. These tools are powerful if you choose to use them.
If you follow these recommendations, you're going to notice people starting to be more attracted to you. You’ll be a people magnet, and it's going to be amazing. Because of these little & simple things, you can be a people magnet. You'll feel great about yourself as well.
So it's a win-win all the way around. Be good to people, and be good to
yourself.
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