Today I want to talk about friendships. Your friends are the people with whom you surround yourself and are a direct reflection of you and your character. I've been thinking about this correlation because I recently took an inventory of my friends. I considered all the people in my past and present, namely who I have remained in contact with over the years.
The truth is that I've only actually remained friends with one person from high school and about two people in college. When I define âfriendshipâ in regard to these people, I'm talking about being 'good' friends that connect & talk at least once a month. Facebook has taken away the reason to actually call people because you can scroll to see what they're doing which can give you a false sense of being
friends with a lot of people. I do have a lot of those 'Facebook type' friends, but I'm talking about really good, true friends. So, why have I stopped being friends with so many of these high school and college friends?
When I honestly assess the situation, it comes down to we don't have as much (if anything) in common anymore ... and that's okay. It doesn't mean that you're not âfriendsâ; it just means you're not really âgood' friends anymore. The people that I surround myself with now are representative of my current morals, values, and
ethics.
I truly feel that the people with which you surround yourself are a direct reflection of who you are. Nowadays my buddies tend to be older than me, and perhaps I get along with them so well because I'm an old soul. I'm not quite sure, but what I am really sure about is that they are really solid individuals. They would do anything for me, and reciprocally, I would do anything for them. They're not jerks, and
they're just honest-to-goodness quality men. That is who I choose to surround myself with.
So many times I see really nice people with friends that are jerks and assholes. You know how the old saying goes about the company you keep: âTell me about the company you keep, and I will tell you what you are.â An important point here is that you're not elevating their presence; they're bringing you down to their level.
Even if you're the greatest guy in the world, if you're surrounded by a bunch of morons, criminals, crooks, or jerks, theyâre bringing you down to their level -- youâre not bringing them up. You might be the greatest guy in the world, but people from the outside world see with whom you associate and equate you to their caliber. They obviously think that you share beliefs and have similar feelings.
Obviously you shouldnât just abruptly stop associating with friends full-stop, but you really do need to ultimately choose, because friends are a choice. The people with whom you associate and the people that you consider your friends are your choice. And as alpha men, we need to really take inventory of the people that we surround ourselves with. Take inventory and after you do, keep in mind
that people view you the way that they view your friends.
If your friends are not living a life that is in line with the way that you think and feel, it might be time to break ties.
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