Many of you have been really stepping-up your style game-- congratulations! Stepping-up your game means that you're trying to step out of the style box
and make sure you're putting your best style foot forward. Often, however, men start to feel like they're a bit overdressed in the process. And as I have discussed in the last two newsletters, sometimes your friends and family can end up poking fun.
But never fear! You can still be stylish and up your game in every situation but not be overly dressed or overly styled. Perhaps you don't want to look like you went on a limb or tried something a little bit extra -- looking appropriate given any situation or peer group while still maintaining a degree of elevated style is absolutely
possible.
Okay, so you're heading out to a bar to hang-out with the boys, and you know it's the relaxed fit jeans + boxy t-shirts + running shoes standard dress. No problem. You will choose to wear jeans that fit, a t-shirt that is more fitted & tailored, and fashion sneakers. My choice is minimal white leather sneakers.
Even though your buddies may give you a hard time, it's because they're secretly a bit envious. The next time they go out and meet you, they're probably going to step-up their game as well. As your style increases, their style will start to increase.
The gist is that you're still fitting into the social culture and within the confines of your peer group, but at the same time, elevating your own style to the next level. You can do this for any situation, whether for pleasure or work.
Your wife or significant other may also give you a hard time. They may ask, “Is that is what you're wearing?” and after you confirm, a lot of times they will put on something else. They won't make you change, however. You see, a lot of times I get dressed-up even if I go out to dinner to a pizza place. I might wear a nice pair of driving moccasins and a fitted button-down, and depending on my mood, I
may dress even nicer.
What happens when you don’t know the place or people --how can you still be a little bit overdressed and a little bit more stylized than the other men? When you aren't sure what the level of dress is for a place you're going to, ask. Then choose basics and layer. Keep your outfit simple with neutral
colors.
My personal belief is it is absolutely always better to be
overdressed than under-dressed.
Get people to look at you for the right reasons. Don't hesitate to step-up your game throughout your work week and still fit into your group. Your efforts will also make your wife or significant other happy to boot. Remember, overdressing does have a limit. If you want to dress up in a three-piece suit and go hang-out with the boys at the bar, that's a bit overdressed and excessive.
But
So, my friend, dress up. It's okay! Just make sure that your clothes fit properly and that they are tastefully
stylish.
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