Simple steps to build a MAGNETIC personality! 💯

Published: Sat, 10/31/20

Simple steps to build a MAGNETIC personality! 💯

Wanting to be liked is human nature, and not many people want to be isolated (IMO). Perhaps oddballs like the Unabomber simply hate everybody, want to be left alone, and wish not to be bothered. But most people want to engage and have social interactions. We derive a lot of pleasure and some of our self-worth from these interactions.

What it all really comes down to is being likable. Now I have met, and I am sure many of you have as well, a few people that are just simply magnetic. You meet them, and you like them immediately. You can't put your finger on precisely what it is about them that draws you to them, but some people have that almost magical magnetism.

The unfortunate aspect is that most of us don't have this magical magnetism. So I feel that it's essential for us to develop and cultivate our likeability. I believe that likeability is something we can manage and work on, and with a few quick steps, I can quickly help you more likable. It all starts with the first interaction. When I first meet somebody, I'm drawn more to the people who are open, communicate smoothly, and exude friendliness.

I feel that it's essential to greet everybody with a smile even if they are not somebody new. Whether it's your first meeting or not, greet people with an authentic and genuine smile. Smiling is disarming, and sends a message of friendliness and warmth that invites others to smile along with you. When smiles are exchanged, people feel more at ease and tend to drop their guard. Smiling has a way of cutting to the chase by making people feel more relaxed, comfortable, and receptive, so show those pearly whites immediately upon meeting.

Also, remember their name. That's a big point, and that's something I was horrible at in the past. But, I started being able to remember names using association tools.When somebody tells me their name, I think of somebody else that I know that has the same name. So if the guy's name is Brad, I'll think of Brad Pitt. After that, whenever I see that person, I think of Brad Pitt. Next, if I repeat the name three times in my head, I can generally remember it much better. You'll be amazed at how many opportunities will come your way just because you're good with names. Now, you might not have the greatest memory in the world, and I definitely don't; but you can learn and develop that skill. Remembering names is something in itself that you should work on.

Now another way to be likable is always to be honest. It sounds like common sense, but some people have difficulty with telling white lies and being deceptive. The first time you get caught lying, any respect that person had for you will be killed, and your standing with that person will be diminished.

Eye contact is essential to likeability as well. If you're having a conversation with someone and you're looking all over the place, you look crazy. So be sure to look people in the eye. Body language is very crucial, as well. Look people in the eye, smile, and shake their hand. Interactions need to be warm but don't overdo it. In other words, be friendly but just don't overdo it.

And my biggest suggestion on how to be likable is to give compliments. Compliment, compliment, compliment! Think of the last compliment that you got -- a compliment that you would have gotten out of the blue. That person is definitely more likable to you, right? If you start practicing the art of compliments, your likability factor will exponentially rise. The simple act of complimenting people is no sweat off your back and no skin off your game. It's simple, it's easy, and it's certainly going to engage people and improve your likability score.

A compliment is broken up into two parts. You have the initial pop, which is the power punch of the compliment. But you can't just stop there because you'll be falling short. A lot more compliment massaging needs to happen by taking the compliment a step further. Go in for the compliment punch, and then you uppercut them with a little bit more depth to make the compliment much more successful.

For example: If you tell somebody that you like their jacket, that's the compliment (aka power punch). Take it a step further by saying that you are thinking about getting one after seeing how great it looks on them or asking them what brand it is (aka uppercut).

The TEN BEST personal compliments, in my opinion, are:

Love your outfit.
You're such a great friend.
You smell incredible.
Have you been working out? You look great!
That color looks fantastic on you!
You have a great smile.
You're one of the best people that I know.
Your hair looks fantastic today!
You should be proud of yourself.
I like your _______________.

So there you have it. Cultivate your likeability, and perhaps you can achieve that ever desired magical magnetism. Smile, remember names, make eye contact, freely give compliments, and always be honest with people. Do them over and over again, so they become second nature and part of your personality.

And remember, gentlemen, if you are having fun with your interactions, your authenticity and sincerity will shine through, making your likeability soar.

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