The first two newsletters this year have addressed breaking up with bad habits and toxic people to make your 2021 more successful, fulfilling, and happy. Now I will address another significant factor that will contribute all of these in 2021 -- NO REGRETS.
Have you shied away from asking out that girl, going after that dream career, auditioning for that band -- thinking that if you never try you'll never fail? Do you ever find yourself being paralyzed by fear of rejection or failure? Does this fear prevent you from taking chances and really going after what you want? Do you simply not even try out of fear of failing or rejection?
Well, life is too short to not go after what you truly desire. If fear is stifling your potential and holding you back, you need to come to terms with rejection and regret. Nothing great ever happens because it was easy.
Think about it -- NOTHING genuinely great was ever accomplished because it was easy. The most significant rewards and greatest triumphs in your life are because risks were taken. By taking the road less traveled, you may have to work a bit harder, but when you get there, that reward is so much sweeter due to the sacrifice taken in order to achieve it.
REJECTION What's the worst that can happen if you ask her out? You could get a 'no' which may sting, your ego may be bruised, and you may feel badly short-term. BUT guess what? Grab a pizza and get over it!
REGRET Regret is what stays in your mind. Regret happens because of the risks you failed to take because you were just too scared or didn't have the confidence to take that first step. Regret can linger with you for a lifetime.
Personally, when I want to achieve something, I just go for it -- I might fail, but the fact that I failed trying means I won't have any regrets. I will also learn about important decisions in the process, I'll find out what went wrong & why, I'll be forced to improve, and I'll be encouraged to take more risks (aka confidence).
For me, living without regrets is critical. When I take chances, I am not left to wonder what would have happened, and ultimately I don't live with regret. My grandfather used to talk to me about things he wished he tried ... wished he had accomplished. I could see the pain and angst in his eyes and heart. He would talk about these opportunities that he wished he would have done.
Don't live your life with regret. You may not make it, you may get rejected, you may fail. But guess what? It's okay! That's what life's about. Just keep in mind that the next time you give it a try, you may succeed, and that success is going to be oh so sweet. Let's make 2021 even sweeter, happier, more fulfilling, and more successful, gentlemen!
Rejection only hurts for a second, but regret can last a lifetime.
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