I hear from many super frustrated men because they're trying to do the best job they can, but they don't feel like they're being taken seriously. Many men (significantly younger men) are being viewed as self-absorbed, tech-addicted narcissists. But I am here to tell you not to sweat what the masses think about the masses! It's an individual case-by-case basis because you have absolute 100% control over how the
world views you. Focus on yourself!
:: RESPECT ::
a deep admiration for somebody's ability, quality, or achievement
I respect you no matter what. Yes, no matter what.
Why?
Because of who I am --Â I am respectable and a respectful man. People may make nasty comments about me or to me, but I won't clap back. And if I have to part ways, I will do it respectably.
Because of who you are --Â you're human with inherent value, deserving to be treated with respect.
Because I don't want to be negatively impacted by other's choices -- I make the best choices for myself, which doesn't include f@#king up my life because of someone else's actions. I move on.
Because I am responsible for me and my choices regardless of other's choices --Â I answer to the man in the mirror and what's inside. I want to be accountable to that person and like what I see looking back.
Now we've all had somebody who we just respected because they were amazing, whether a business person, athlete, YouTuber, whomever. We respected them because of something they've done, an achievement they've had, or just because they're awesome. And for me, I view this as ADMIRATION.  I admire  somebody because they've achieved X or done this or are amazingly awesome. But the kind of
respect I'm looking for is for others to take me seriously and treat me well.
I'm here today to tell you that nobody – and when I say nobody, I mean no-one not even yo’ mama -- OWES you respect. It is something that you EARN through your actions, and once you've earned somebody's respect, that’s when the hard work starts. You've got to keep that respect. You've got to live every single day with integrity with purpose. And if you fall off, you might have to do
some extra work to earn that respect back. It's hard, but it can be done.
But, has anyone ever done something to you or said something to you that automatically made you feel disrespected? Was it undeniable that the dude didn't respect you? There is nothing worse than feeling disrespected. But here's the deal, guys -- it can be prevented most of the time.
Now some of the time, assholes are not going to like you or respect you just because of their ignorance, right? But for the rest of everybody out there that isn't an idiot or a bigot or racist or a homophobe or whatever, I've done specific things to get the respect I deserve. Actually, the term is not ‘deserve’ – instead, the respect I
EARNED.
I have some steps that you can take to earn
respect.
The first is to look respectable, including your grooming, hygiene, style, and the way you present yourself to the outside world.
Your image as your personal brand and what it is saying to the world around you is something that people will look at and consider.
Another tip is to act respectable – say please & thank you and have respectable body language
that includes looking people in the eye when you talk to them and shaking their hand like you mean it. Speaking clearly and concisely to get your point across in a logical manner is also vital. It's a skill that not everyone can master—and if you can't do it now, you can practice and work on it like any other skill.
The next point to garner respect is to be a man of your word. Don't lie. Don't cheat. If you give somebody your word that you're going to do something, do it! If not, why
should they respect you?
To finish this list out, try your best EVERY DAY with EVERYTHING you do. Are you going to be excellent at everything? No, of course not! I suck so bad at so many things,
but that doesn't mean that I don't try. I give it a good college try daily, including relationships, school, work, career, hobbies, and passions -- EVERYTHING. Put in 100%, or else why bother?
True, there are assholes out there that will never respect you regardless of what you do, how you act, or what you say. Should you worry about them? No! Get rid of them -- you don't need them in your life. The majority of valuable people that you do want in your life will respect you if you practice these tips daily.
My fiancee took me out to take photos... she's learning, and I love her eye!
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The first is to look respectable, including your grooming, hygiene, style, and the way you present yourself to the outside world.
Your image as your personal brand and what it is saying to the world around you is something that people will look at and consider.
