Ugh, the dreaded friend zone. What it is? How you get there? Does this mean you're a simp? And how exactly do you get out of it? The term friendzone refers to a platonic relationship where one person wants to get freaky and the other person doesn't. Have you ever heard the phrase, “But I don't want to ruin what we have” or “You're like a brother to me.” This, unfortunately, is code for “I think you're a cool
dude, but I'm not sexually attracted to you.”
Does this mean that you're not a good-looking dude? No! Does this mean that somebody else isn't going to find you totally irresistible and attractive? Absolutely not! This simply means that this specific person doesn't actually want to have intimate relations with you.
Now, this is a tough pill for some men to swallow, and reality they don't want to accept -- how could she not want a piece of this? Guys can get totally hung up for months or even years -- viable dating years and months, I might add -- totally hung up on this one individual person that will never reciprocate their feelings.
I'm not here to blow smoke up your cute little keister. The fact is that if a woman views you as strictly a friend and she is not attracted to you, there is nothing you can do about it. The sooner you accept that reality and move on, the better off you're going to be. I know that there are some of you right now that are super pissed off at me because I don't understand how you two would be
perfect together if you were just given a chance. But read on, my friend.
Sadly, if you're friendzoned, the best you can hope for is a drunken kiss after a night of her sobbing and talking your ear off because some a-hole just broke her heart. Unfortunately, this kiss will only deepen your frustration and angst because the next day, she will regret the kiss and possibly feel even more terrible about herself, which will cause her to avoid you like the plague. You will misread this
drunken kiss and be even further devastated when she stops returning your calls and text messages.
simp \ˈsimp\ [noun]
what does simp mean?
Simp is a slang insult for a man who is seen as ‘too attentive and submissive’ to a woman, particularly due to unsuccessful sexual expectations and efforts. Simp is just another word to describe the Friendzone Guy – essentially the dude who attracts people through niceness & obsession.
HOWEVER, a simp and those in the friend-zone can often overlap, but they are not the same. Simps often grow tired of the friendzone, which leads to the relationship deteriorating (unlike the Friendzone Guy). Also, keep in mind that a guy and a girl can set healthy friendship boundaries (even if one is attracted to the other) and maintain a relationship. Therefore, this guy is not a simp, although he's essentially in the friendzone. Further, gay men who are friends
with women also are not simps since the expectations of this relationship are not the same as with a straight man + straight woman arrangement; the presumptions and mentality are not characteristic of simpdom.
What to Do If You're
Friendzoned
So, does this mean that having an attractive friend that you would sleep with but she wouldn't sleep with you a 'bad thing'? No, it's a good thing because attractive friends have attractive friends, and the more that you hang around (being cool and not all creepy, weird), the more likely you'll actually be able to mix-and-mingle and meet these attractive friends -- if you play your cards right.
Here's how I would recommend playing your hand once you realize that this person is not ultimately going to be reciprocating your romantic feelings. First, this doesn't mean don't be a
friend. Be cool and hang out when she wants to hang out but don't be pathetic. This is a time to maintain your dignity and self-respect. You will know pretty early on whether or not this relationship is going to end up in a romantic scenario.
Once you get to the stage of you being a solid friend, it's time to accept the relationship as it is, and it's time to move on and meet somebody that will reciprocate your romantic
feelings, because let me tell you something, nothing says ‘unsexy’ and ‘unappealing’ more than a dude that just doesn't get it and doesn't take no for an answer.
Quite frankly, the way I see it is that you've got enough friends. So if she just wants to be friends, don’t spend
any more time or money on this little senorita. It is time to move on to the next. Remember boys, it is a numbers game.
Being in the friend zone sucks, but it sucks even worse when you don't accept it for what it is. Acknowledge the fact that this person is not going to be interested in sleeping with you, at least not in this lifetime. But it's okay, don't get all freaky and upset.
Listen, somebody else is out there that thinks you are sexy. Get out there and go find her. But before you do, check out this video I did about flirting.
The other day I was watching Aaron’s videos about tattoos dos and don’t s. This is something I actually do have some experience in and can offer some insight. A little background about me: I got my first tattoo in 1992. I was 19 years old and serving in the Marine Corps. I got a stylized Marine Corps logo on my right shoulder or as those of us in the Marine Corps refer to it as an Eagle Globe and Anchor. I’ve been getting
them off and on ever since as finances have permitted, so here is some important things I’ve learned over the years that I can offer to you tattoo newbies. Click to read more ...
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Here's how I would recommend playing your hand once you realize that this person is not ultimately going to be reciprocating your romantic feelings. First, this doesn't mean don't be a
friend. Be cool and hang out when she wants to hang out but don't be pathetic. This is a time to maintain your dignity and self-respect. You will know pretty early on whether or not this relationship is going to end up in a romantic scenario.
