I have no competition -- why do I say that? I have confidence, and confidence has no competition. Confidence allows you to conquer the biggest barriers, and confidence only depends on you. Confidence initiates your greatness and brings to the surface all of the qualities that make you the boss of your life. With you steering your life, there is no competition and no 2nd place. You call the
shots, you run the show in every aspect, and with confidence flowing, you are unstoppable and boundless.
The reason I do what I do and the core of alpha m are to help guys develop into more confident men. At the most basic level, true self-confidence is the most critical factor in living a happy, healthy, and fulfilled life. Life is way too short and way too precious not to feel great about who you are.
For years, I have been analyzing this whole idea of confidence. Some people say you cannot learn confidence; they say you either have it or you don't – and there is no in-between. I believe with every ounce of my soul that confidence is something that you actually can learn. And in case you didn’t know, this is why I developed the Alpha M. Confidence Course.
But before I delve deeper into confidence, I want to touch on the difference between ARROGANCE and CONFIDENCE, as the two can get confused although they are worlds apart.
Somebody who's ARROGANT feels the need to tell everybody how great they are, how wonderful they are, and a lot of times bring someone else down in the process. An arrogant guy is somebody who is incredibly self-centered and really only concerned about themselves. The good news is that they are pretty easy to
spot.
On the other hand, CONFIDENCE is an unwavering belief in one's abilities, values, and self-worth. They know who they are – the good, the bad, and the ugly – and they know they may not be good at everything, and that’s okay because they believe in themselves. They don't dwell on negative consequences.
Now back to the topic at hand -- confidence. You can develop and increase your self-confidence. And just so you know, even help only ONE PERSON to feel better about who he is, I have achieved success.
First, you need to recognize and identify your insecurities. Tune into what that
annoying voice is saying to you that makes you think that you can’t do something or that you’re not good or smart enough. Take note of what makes you uncomfortable and what makes you ashamed of yourself. Identify all of these things and write them down. One huge tip is that you will see your confidence skyrocket when you stop worrying about what other people think, and instead, you just worry about you being the best you can
be.
Once you have identified your insecurities, the next step is to talk to people you trust
about these issues. Don’t try to hide or run from them – face them, address each, and talk them out with others. You must resolve these issues before you can move on. Little by little, you’ll chip at all of these insecurities, these things that hold you back. The truth is that some of these issues that you’re facing might not go away – BUT by you understanding them and accepting them, you can deal with them, which will allow you to move on.
Accepting who you are AND your past are both vital to developing confidence. You cannot push these emotions, thoughts, or memories down and not think about
them as they’ll come back, and you’ll have to eventually deal with them. So, take the time to identify them, deal with them, and talk to trusted confidantes about them.
Not dwelling on your mistakes is part-and-parcel of accepting your past and is
imperative to becoming more confident. Nobody is perfect. Even the most confident person is insecure at times or about certain things. It’s a feeling – it’ll come and go. Just don’t dwell. Move on and understand that it happens to all of us.
Identifying what you are good at and what you’re passionate about will exponentially raise your confidence levels. Write these down and go after
developing, harnessing, and enjoying these talents and passions. Being thankful for what you actually have is also essential because it could be worse! Every day (when you wake, during a break at work, when you’re going to sleep at night) think of these things in which you are thankful. Be grateful for what you have while you pursue your goals.
Along the same lines as being passionate and thankful is eliminating negativity from your thoughts and speech. You live the life you create -- make it a
positive one! Positivity is like a rash – if you itch it, it’s going to spread like wildfire, and you’ll be amazed at the people you touch in a positive way -- which ultimately will increase your self-confidence.
On your quest to increase your confidence, you must be able to accept
compliments! Stop denying compliments. As important as giving compliments is, accepting compliments is equally important. The way you receive a compliment speaks volumes about you. Don’t brush off the compliment or automatically compliment them back. Being able to praise others is a sign of security, confidence, strength, and a mark of good character.
Confident people stick to their principles, as sh!t happens in life, so you need to
figure out what you stand for. When you take a stand, it may be tricky at times. But I can promise that later when you’re looking back, you will be glad that you did stick up for what you believed in.
Further, be a kind person and actively try to impact people & the world positively. These actions will do wonders for your self-esteem, not to mention
your confidence. Challenge yourself to do one random act of kindness per day, which can be as simple as opening the door for someone.
And last but certainly not least, you need to do something that is for YOU every single day. Do something that makes you
happy. Perhaps it’s reading a book or drinking a nice cup of tea or coffee – you are the only one in control of your happiness.
Inferiority is a state of mind where you declare yourself a victim, and the sooner you realize that you are smart enough, good enough, and beautifully perfect in all your imperfections, the sooner you're going to be confidently getting the most out of life.
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First, you need to recognize and identify your insecurities. Tune into what that
annoying voice is saying to you that makes you think that you can’t do something or that you’re not good or smart enough. Take note of what makes you uncomfortable and what makes you ashamed of yourself. Identify all of these things and write them down. One huge tip is that you will see your confidence skyrocket when you stop worrying about what other people think, and instead, you just worry about you being the best you can
be.
