Have you ever had one of those days where it seems like nothing goes right, everything goes wrong, and you keep getting kicked in the face? I'm not talking about just having a bad day-- I'm talking about having one of those days where you just feel like giving up. It's like, “Why am I working this hard when nothing good ever comes of
it?”
I have had plenty of those through the last decade, but I have never given up. I've kept trudging forward, and now I have reached one of my goals – opening Salon Posta after renovating a historic site. Who would have thought? I have had many instances where I had to dust myself off, pick myself up, and get back in the game. But setting goals and overcoming disappointment has been the
key.
Before you can experience genuine disappointment, you first have to have a goal. The goal could be a hope, a dream, or an expected outcome. Depending on your age and life objective, your goal could be as simple as asking Brenda to the prom. But some of you may have more significant goals like being the first one in your family to graduate from college, becoming a writer, or breaking your
family’s cycle of poverty & oppression.
Decide you’re not going to let anything stand in your way-- not society, social class, nothing.You are going to determine your future, and that's your goal. As you age & experience life, you'll reach some goals. But some goals that you thought were important at the time may change and ultimately fade as your perspective
changes.
Regardless, goals are specific to you, and you are the only one that can determine what will leads to your happiness. Life is about joy -- our dreams, our goals, our hopes, our future plans. Those intangibles get us up in the morning and keep us working hard. That's why we don't just take 'no' for an answer.
Now, some people take 'no' for an answer when the going gets tough. They stop. Whereas, other people prefer to sit back and wait for things to happen for them instead of making things happen for themselves. If that's you, you're going to get out of life exactly what you put into it … and that's little to nothing.
It's a sign!
So what happened to me back in the summer of 2011 really set the stage for how I’ve dealt with bad days. I had just had one of those days where I wanted to give up. I felt down & mad at the same time, sporting a scowl on my face all day. I was just so pissed off at the world -- and the universe. Damn yo, all a sudden,
I’m driving around and see this van. It said ‘carpe diem’ on the side –it’s Latin for seize the day. And just from this little twist of fate, I got pulled out of my funk.
Carpe diem – seize the day. We only have one shot at this life, and nobody knows when their time is up. How are you going to live your life? Are you going to just let life pass you by and be reactive to the things that come in and out of your life? Or are you going to carpe diem and ultimately be in control of your destiny?
I decided back then to seize the day as I don’t want to look back on life and think that I had any regrets or missed an opportunity. I seize each-and-every day – and make the most of them. Sure, I may not accomplish everything I set out to do once I am dead and gone, but it’s not going to be for lack of trying. I simply ran out of time.
Guys, I'm here to tell you,DREAM BIG.You can be, do, and accomplish anything that you set your mind out to do. Develop your goals, set an expectation, and define a path for obtaining those goals. You cannot sit around and just wait for things to happen. You're going to be waiting a
long time. Only you can set your goals; only you can accomplish them.
You can't be afraid of hard work. Nothing great was ever accomplished by taking the easy way out. People say all the time you can accomplish anything you set your mind to, and I genuinely believe that. But does it mean that's going to come easy? No, it doesn’t. You’re going to have setbacks, road bumps, and days that you feel like giving up when you’re incredibly disappointed.
The people that succeed are the people that brush it off, pick themselves back up, and don't dwell & wallow in self-pity. They also don’t feel they deserve something that they haven't done yet. They make things happen. We as men in the current world and new age of technology & social media need to take responsibility and make things happen.
So when you have one of those bad days, you have to keep pressing forward. Times can be tough and discouraging. You have to believe your situation will get better. You have to trust and CARPE DIEM. This aphorism will be pushing me to open another business and beyond. What about you?
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