Yes, I am insecure 😟

Published: Sat, 06/19/21

So, I'm insecure about a lot of things. Growing up, I was insecure about everything from the money my family didn’t have to the clothes I was wearing to everything in between. As I've gotten older, some insecurities have gotten better, but putting myself out there on YouTube has kind of exacerbated other insecurities.

YouTube comments can have a way of absolutely picking people apart and calling out aspects that they may be insecure about. I really feel like with social media and everything that's going on with our world, hyper-critical and hyper-judgmental commentary is getting worse as opposed to better. But insecurities don’t just pop out from trolls commenting under YouTube videos.

Social media, in general, can cause insecurities to crop up. When I see all the amazing people in amazing relationships doing amazing things, I can start to feel bad about myself. I feel like I am missing out and like everybody else is living some crazy, extravagant, amazing life doing this or that, going here or there, and being this or that. Posts like these can make me feel like I'm failing or like everybody else has something figured out that I haven’t.

I am always working to make myself a better, more well-rounded person, and the reason I do these newsletters and videos is to help you feel better too. So, if I feel like I'm struggling with something, chances are you may be as well. The good news is that I have identified a few things that helped me feel better about myself and less insecure, and so I thought I'd share them with you in hopes that they might help you too.

Remember that social media is not in any way, shape, or form reality. What you're seeing is a snapshot into somebody's life that they are choosing to show you.It’s the part they WANT you to see.
Never ever compare yourself to anybody else except you. You should be only competing with yourself.
Surround yourself with positive people that make you feel good about you. Positivity is contagious… so is negativity. Which do you want?
If you’re insecure about something that you can change, change it. I take care of my body physically, which makes me feel incredible – and it will make you feel incredible too.
Build and boost your self-esteem by volunteering and helping others. Do something kind for someone, not because you're going to get anything in return, but simply because of the feeling you’ll get.

I am generally super confident, but confidence does not necessarily correlate to insecurities or being insecure. You can be incredibly confident in your daily life and most things that you do but still have these insecurities -- these little voices in the back of your head saying you're not good enough, you're not smart enough, you don't have enough money, you're not tall enough, you're not good-looking enough. And it sucks!

The interesting thing about insecurities, though, is that they're invisible. They're only visible to the person who actually has them. The fact is every single person in the history of the universe has struggled with insecurities from time to time. Everybody has insecurities.

I get such a sense of fulfillment creating and publishing my videos that help viewers— the amazing comments and feedback are incredible. But with as much amazing as I receive, there is a small degree of not so amazing. But it’s no different than life – you’ll have the haters: those that want to tear you down or say something negative and those who point out something about your physical characteristics. Whatever it is, they’re doing it just to make you feel bad.

These types of people are pathetic and small. Work on developing thicker skin to let their commentary roll off your back. I’ve developed thicker skin over the years, but I still get stung by negative comments.

Realize that you’re not alone because everybody struggles with feelings of insecurity from time to time. I am no exception. Don’t compare yourself to others or what others are doing. The only person you need to worry about is yourself and making you the best you can be. Don’t get caught up in thinking you need things or material this-or-that. It’s about YOU and the good that you bring into the world. Thank you for bringing good to me and my world!

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