Well, the topic for todayâs newsletter originates from discussions I see online about style. As I was browsing some recent posts, I feel that some people will pick you apart even if you're bespoke from the ground up. This kind of style snobbery is not what I am about. I am about connecting with everyone and not coming across as
snobbish.
There is so much snobbery out there, and it's really a shame because it prevents many guys from taking an active interest in dressing better. Genuinely looking to improve themselves, guys go into style forums & groups, read style magazines, and watch men's style YouTube channels where often times the mantra is âif youâre not wearing XYZ, itâs
bad.'
To be honest, some of the menâs style forums, particularly on Reddit, hate me. In the past, I used to answer questions. One time specifically, questions were flying at me, and I was having a good time â then someone asked me about my 3 favorite shoes. I answered⊠and their response? âThat goes to show you what type of guy you are!â Say what? Then they started to proceed to make fun of
me as well.
 Some people take style so seriously â they start learning a little, then all of a sudden, theyâre experts telling you what you should and shouldnât be. Regarding men's style, of course, there's the shoe snob like I pointed out. There's also the automatic watch snobs (don't let me get started on this one), brand snobs, tailoring snobs, suit snobs, tradition & rules snobs-- to name a
few.
Style is totally
subjective!
What I think is stylish may be stylish; what you think is stylish may be stylish. It all boils down to personal taste and preference. There is no ârightâ or âwrong,' which I'm really offended when people position style as 'right' and 'wrong.' Honestly, this is the reason why I don't go to most style blogs and donât regularly read GQ or Esquire -- because
that's not my reality, nor will it ever be. Some of the stuff that you see is just crazy expensive, not to mention outside of my style comfort zone and my ability to be comfortable.
My message from DAY ONE (and the reason why I get along so well with other vloggers like Primer (Andrew Snavely), Masculine Style (Tanner Guzy), Real Men Real Style (Antonio Cenento), and Modest Man (Brock McGoff)) is that style is subjective. We are all just regular guys who want to give our personal take & spin on style, provide tips & tricks, and help where we can.
But under no circumstances do we ever say you NEED XYZ or you NEED to do this to be cool.
So that's one of the reasons why I started Alpha M. in the first place. I realized there was room for somebody who's just a âregular guy,' who happens to know more about clothing, shoes, and grooming than he does football and baseball. Be careful going to these snobby-style sites because they can make you feel bad about yourself. They are populated by a bunch of know-it-alls who think that
their opinion is the only correct opinion -- Â if youâre not wearing XYZ, youâre not cool.Â
If anyone tells you that youâre âwrong,' that youâre wearing something that you shouldnât be, or youâre not cool because of XYZ, give them the proverbial finger because they are wrong. Style should be fun â fashion IS fun. Itâs supposed to be fun!
When you start taking yourself, style, and clothing too seriously, you just look like an asshole! Put on clothing that represents you personally. As Marcelino de Carvalho stated, âDo not be a snob⊠have your personality. Make the others accept you as you are. Just be natural. Dare to be yourself.â
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